I heard a stat many, many years ago that it takes more than 10 positives to combat one negative. With that insight alone I started to realize why there are so many people stuck in neutral. Just think about it for a minute- where do the negatives come from?
I remember years ago asking a group of young adults that question. Their answers were telling. Television, the news, radio, (today you can surely add the internet), and they mentioned their teachers, parents, peers, drugs, alcohol, and bars. They said it was all around them all you have to do is walk to the corner. So I asked them, “where do you go to get the positive?!” After a long pause, one of them said, “church?” and I asked, “do you go?”
In this world, it seems like the odds are against us to be fulfilled or to reach our purpose. So how do we put those odds in our favor? One of my mentors’ years ago said “where you will be five years from now are the books you read and the people you associate with.”
“Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” 1 Cor. 15:33
When I heard that statement I was in my young 20's and that already meant I had two strikes against me. So changes had to be made! Because we CAN choose the people we associate with, the things that we view or listen to, and how we respond.
“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.”
1 Thessalonians 5:11
One of the things that I became very aware of the most was that when I would talk to others; was my conversation being uplifting and positive, or adding to the negative of that other person? When others were speaking to me I had to make a decision whether their words were positive or negative and how I could influence those conversations to the positive. The biggest thing that I would suggest we focus on is what we say to ourselves; are we thinking about a promising future with great relationships, fun, peace, joy… or are we telling ourselves we will never amount to anything? Take a moment today and make a decision to take a personal inventory on the positives and negatives of your life! Then focus on the positives, eliminate the negatives and the results will be astonishing!
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”